Holding a Grudge? It Might Be Hurting You More Than You Know

Anger and Resentment

There’s a saying I often share with my clients:

“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”

For over 25 years, I’ve coached some of the most brilliant doctors and lawyers—leaders in their fields—who carry a weight that no one sees:resentment.

At first, it seems justified. The betrayal. The unfair treatment. The partner who let them down. The colleague who lied. The patient or client who disrespected them.

But here's the truth—anger has a cost.

Not just emotionally. Not just professionally. But physically.

The High Cost of Anger

I’ve seen successful attorneys with furrowed brows that never relax… Physicians whose shoulders never drop from the tension… And the deeper cost?

• Sleepless nights

• Constant digestive issues

• Stomach pain and inflammation

• Joint stiffness and early arthritis

• Accelerated aging—yes, resentment shows up in your face

Many of them don’t even realize how much their body is carrying. Their face hardens. Their tone becomes defensive. They lose the spark they once had for their work and families.

Resentment doesn’t just steal peace—it robs us of vitality, clarity, and joy.

The Ripple Effect

And let’s talk aboutthe ripple effect:

🧠Career: You become more reactive, less collaborative, and more likely to isolate. Promotions slip away. Relationships sour.

❤️Family: You go home exhausted. You don’t mean to snap—but the fuse is short. Children feel it. Spouses grow distant.

💊Health: The bodykeeps the score.Stress hormones rise. Inflammation spreads. You feel 20 years older than you are.

The Way Forward

But there is a way forward.

Letting go doesn’t mean excusing what happened. It means choosing your peace over their power. It means protecting your future from the pain of your past.

If this resonates—if you’ve been carrying something for far too long—I want you to know you’re not weak. You’re human.

And healing is possible. I’ve helped hundreds find it—without compromising their ambition or success.

📩 If you’re ready to release what’s holding you back—emotionally and physically—reach out and DM me or set an appointment. Click here.